When you are suffering, you feel like you will try anything to get some relief. I often start to lose perspective on things and I suddenly can’t remember ever feeling good before and lose hope for feeling good ever again. (I acknowledge this is more than a tad dramatic.)
I am in it right now. I’m coming to the end of a 10 week protocol with my naturopath to combat these biofilms and candida to get my gut healthy again. I liken this process to chemotherapy and my husband rolls his eyes a bit. I understand, but as a care-giver to someone who went through chemo, a lot of this was familiar. Lack of appetite, tiredness, constant nausea, muscle aches, joint pain, excessive vomiting, hot/cold flashes, headaches, vision changes, migraines and I even had significant hair loss at one point that was starting to really freak me out. However you describe it, this has not been a fun year for me.
And here I am at another potential break-through spot in my life with enthusiastic team members cheering me on, but all I can see is darkness, suffering and more suffering.
I’m tired of this restricted diet and eating food that’s “good for me”. Because I’ve been feeling so ill, I’ve completely socially isolated myself. It has been months since seeing anyone other than the occasional cashier, my husband or a team member.
Even my dog isn’t able to make me smile like she usually can. I find myself annoyed when she wants to play and enthusiastically brings me toys. I think, “Not now, I’m suffering.”
My mental attitude is also in the toilet. I have lost focus on my intention for doing this whole process in the first place. I have somehow convinced myself that this is a punishment the people supporting me are subjecting me to. Of course, this is an illusion I create to distract me from reality and my responsibility in this.
I’m having a difficult time and that is an indisputable fact. There is quite a bit of suffering going on, both mental and physical. That’s real. But I really did choose to be here. I knew this was going to be a rough road. I had hope that I would be through the worst of it by now, but I’m not and I need to acknowledge and respect that.
Five weeks ago, I was making huge portions of our dinners to stock some away in the freezer for nights I’m not able to cook. I cleared my calendar of all things not health team related or absolutely necessary things. I even let my co-workers know that I’d be scarce for the duration and to do their best without me.
But here I am, wishing it wasn’t happening instead of appreciating the fact that I’m here and this is exactly what I wanted. I want to be well. And getting there isn’t easy. But if I keep my eye on the prize and keep my head straight, I will get there. Eventually.